A BABY'S FUNERAL

Because… the word “pochovat” has two meanings in Czech.

PERINATAL LOSS OR MISCARRIAGE

The loss of a baby has been with us since time immemorial.
Yet it is cruel, painful, and unfair. The things we believed in come crashing down.
Why did this happen? Why us? What did we do wrong?
The loss of a baby can affect relationships and friendships.
Parents also face new situations at work.
Of course, it’s not just the mother who grieves—the father does, too. Everyone grieves a little differently.
And besides the father, there are grandparents, siblings, and closest friends…
By “loss of a baby,” we mean a stillborn child, a miscarriage, a baby who died shortly after birth, or even a very young child.

WHY HOLD A FUNERAL FOR A BABY? HOW DOES A FUNERAL HELP?

First, you need help coping with the shock and letting go of your emotions—anger, fear…
Then, you need to come to terms with reality.
Find a new place in life.
A good funeral service will help you begin the grieving process.
If you never got to see your baby, the service will help you hold him or her “in your arms” for the first and last time and create at least some memories and bonds….
We can try to include close family and friends in everything so that the parents don’t feel alone, and so that others can grieve alongside them.
Or at least listen to them with understanding.
Then say the things we couldn’t, didn’t have time to, or didn’t even want to say.
Realize that the baby is gone, wherever they may be.
Say goodbye to them, see them off.
And at the same time, hold on to the memory.
And slowly begin to accept the new reality, the new relationships with family and friends… 

HOW FUNERAL DIRECTORS CAN HELP

We’ll do our best to be sensitive and understanding.
We’ll take care of everything from start to finish.
We’ll be here for you as you say goodbye to your baby’s body. We understand that you need a lasting memento. To lay your baby to rest one last time, to dress, swaddle, and caress them…
We’ll arrange for cremation or prepare a burial.
Together with you, we’ll plan a funeral service that will bring you comfort.
A clergy member may participate in the funeral: we can coordinate with them.
We’ll work with you to prepare and send out obituaries designed specifically for babies.
We’ll handle the “funeral allowance” (5,000 CZK from the government for the funeral) on your behalf, if you wish (however, starting in April 2026, we recommend that clients apply for the funeral allowance themselves, directly, without an intermediary—you’ll find an explanation in the Questions and Answers section at the end).
We’ll take care of the paperwork, the death certificate, and everything else.
You don’t have to go anywhere; we can handle everything remotely.
Or we’d be happy to come to you. And we’ll answer your questions honestly.
We’ll advise you on where to find additional support.

Some of us have personal experience with the loss of a baby; others are certified Bereavement Counselors.

What might saying goodbye to your baby be like?

ABOVE ALL, IT CAN BE VERY PERSONAL.

We offer ideas and options, but we might be completely wrong. The ceremony shouldn’t be based on our ideas. Everything should be connected to you and your baby: the venue, the obituary, the casket or urn, the music, the flowers, the colors, the candles, the photos, the video, the refreshments… Everything else is secondary, and in the end, it might all turn out differently.

HE SHOULD INVOLVE PEOPLE IN THE CEREMONY.

It’s like when we’re learning: we need to engage as many of our senses as possible—hearing, seeing, reading, writing… We can start by working together to prepare a few sentences, or even a longer speech. We can also reminisce quietly—by writing messages to our baby. Because there’s always something we couldn’t, didn’t have time to, or weren’t able to tell our baby… We can then burn the messages; no one will see them. Or we can write the messages on balloons or lanterns and release them into the air. Some people call this “heavenly mail.” Or we can write messages on little boats and set them adrift down the river… We can inscribe messages on a wooden urn or a coffin. We can sing together. Or plant a tree. If the baby doesn’t have a name yet, we can give it one together—“name it.”

MUSIC MAY BE PLAYED DURING THE FAREWELL CEREMONY.

Music has great power. It gives us the ability to evoke, intensify, dampen, or rekindle emotions—not only individually, but also collectively. Often, a song brings back just a fleeting glimpse, a whiff of a memory… Live music is always better, but recorded music is easier to play.

WHEN TO HOLD A FUNERAL.

In our opinion, there’s no need to rush. Wait until you’re ready to say goodbye.
We recommend first saying goodbye privately, with just your closest family and friends, to your baby’s body, and only later—once you’ve had a chance to catch your breath—organizing a larger farewell, either with your baby’s ashes or by laying them to rest in a grave.
This will also give you the opportunity to adjust the date to accommodate loved ones who might not be able to attend right away. However, we are here to listen to any wishes you may have, advise you on how to handle them, and figure out how to make them a reality. Perinatal loss is an experience unlike any other—one that cannot be learned from books. The same goes for the way each set of parents experiences it.

LET'S PRESERVE OUR MEMORIES OF OUR BABY SO WE CAN LOOK BACK ON THEM.

We save all memories, clippings, photos, and little trinkets. For example, in a box. You can use the memory boxes that volunteers from the organization Dítě v srdci make and distribute to selected hospitals. Or we can make you your very own wooden memory box. You’ll be able to return to this box often—at Christmas, on All Souls’ Day, on all anniversaries… and whenever you’re feeling sad.

IT MAY BE IN A PLACE THAT IS UPLIFTING.

If we can be outdoors, we most highly recommend places by the water (an island, a river confluence, a weir), spots in a park or at the edge of a forest, locations in a meadow, and scenic overlooks. Gardens at villas (as well as private gardens), garden gazebos, and even areas near a church or in a cemetery. We have a detailed map of good locations, but we don’t really use it much anyway: the most important thing is that the place feels personal to you.
If indoors, it could be a small chapel, a historic villa with a terrace and garden, a lounge (in a theater, gallery, restaurant, or hotel), a gallery or museum, a community center, a library, a loft or rooftop, a café…

IT CAN CREATE A MEMORIAL FOR A BABY.

We can plant a tree: it’s a living memorial—and a sustainable one at that. We watch the tree grow; it changes right before our eyes; we can touch it; it has its own scent; we have to care for it a little… And as we gradually grow attached to it, we also gradually come to terms with the loss. We can make a watering trough or a bird feeder. These can be incorporated into a tiny memorial garden that we’ll create together, which will bring everyone involved closer together. We can make a special piece of jewelry with the baby’s ashes, or a commemorative glass piece—something that certainly belongs here in the Czech Republic, a glassmaking powerhouse.

A BABY'S FUNERAL CAN ALSO BE COLORFUL.

People usually feel sad and cry at a funeral, but your baby’s funeral doesn’t have to be somber. It can be childlike—that is, colorful.
It’s meant to help us return to life, and colors are a part of that. At the beginning of the service, we try to help everyone focus, then gradually immerse themselves in our shared grief, and finally in their own personal grief. But as the service draws to a close, we’re glad when we can see a smile shining through the tears.

FUNERAL SERVICES WITH CREMATION

Our service covers everything from initial assistance, communication with all parties involved, transportation, the casket, and cremation, to handling the paperwork and, if applicable, processing the 5,000 Kč funeral allowance from the government.

The actual price is therefore only 9,500 CZK, because the government will pay 5,000 CZK.

Funeral service with burial

Our service includes everything except stonemason services: from initial assistance, through communication with all parties involved, transportation, and a ceremonial casket, to handling the paperwork and, if applicable, applying for the 5,000 Kč funeral subsidy from the government. The actual price is therefore only 11,500 Kč, because the government pays 5,000 Kč.

Farewell Ceremony

Ceremonies are very personalized: we can thoughtfully organize a small ceremony for 3,000 CZK as well as large ceremonies costing tens of thousands. The average price is around 10,000 CZK.

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS ABOUT BABY FUNERALS:

Funeral Directors, Infant Funeral, Adriana Kábová

WHAT'S NEXT?

Grief and sorrow come in waves, and you certainly don’t have to face them alone. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

The healthcare facility where the birth took place may offer you psychotherapeutic support. Don’t hesitate to ask them directly.

The crisis intervention hotline at the Perinatal Hospice “Dítě v srdci” will be happy to advise you; you can call every day from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. at 731 031 064. For more information, visit www.ditevsrdci.cz.

Practical information is available at www.prazdnakolebka.cz. As part of their “You Are Not Alone” project, you can request to be connected with a lay counselor—a parent who has personal experience with the death of a baby.

The organization Cesta domů also provides counseling and support for bereaved families; you can schedule an appointment at their counseling center by phone or email. For more information, visit www.cestadomu.cz.

HERE ARE LINKS TO ORGANIZATIONS AND GROUPS THAT HAVE HELPED OUR CLIENTS.

SOMETIMES THESE ARE PROFESSIONAL NONPROFIT ORGANIZATIONS, AND SOMETIMES THEY ARE VOLUNTEER-BASED INITIATIVES.

WE CAN'T VOUCH FOR ANY OF THEM, BUT WE'VE HEARD GOOD THINGS ABOUT THEM.