A BABY'S FUNERAL
Because… the word “pochovat” has two meanings in Czech.
PERINATAL LOSS OR MISCARRIAGE
The loss of a baby has been with us since time immemorial.
Yet it is cruel, painful, and unfair. The things we believed in come crashing down.
Why did this happen? Why us? What did we do wrong?
The loss of a baby can affect relationships and friendships.
Parents also face new situations at work.
Of course, it’s not just the mother who grieves—the father does, too. Everyone grieves a little differently.
And besides the father, there are grandparents, siblings, and closest friends…
By “loss of a baby,” we mean a stillborn child, a miscarriage, a baby who died shortly after birth, or even a very young child.
WHY HOLD A FUNERAL FOR A BABY? HOW DOES A FUNERAL HELP?
First, you need help coping with the shock and letting go of your emotions—anger, fear…
Then, you need to come to terms with reality.
Find a new place in life.
A good funeral service will help you begin the grieving process.
If you never got to see your baby, the service will help you hold him or her “in your arms” for the first and last time and create at least some memories and bonds….
We can try to include close family and friends in everything so that the parents don’t feel alone, and so that others can grieve alongside them.
Or at least listen to them with understanding.
Then say the things we couldn’t, didn’t have time to, or didn’t even want to say.
Realize that the baby is gone, wherever they may be.
Say goodbye to them, see them off.
And at the same time, hold on to the memory.
And slowly begin to accept the new reality, the new relationships with family and friends…
HOW FUNERAL DIRECTORS CAN HELP
We’ll do our best to be sensitive and understanding.
We’ll take care of everything from start to finish.
We’ll be here for you as you say goodbye to your baby’s body. We understand that you need a lasting memento. To lay your baby to rest one last time, to dress, swaddle, and caress them…
We’ll arrange for cremation or prepare a burial.
Together with you, we’ll plan a funeral service that will bring you comfort.
A clergy member may participate in the funeral: we can coordinate with them.
We’ll work with you to prepare and send out obituaries designed specifically for babies.
We’ll handle the “funeral allowance” (5,000 CZK from the government for the funeral) on your behalf, if you wish (however, starting in April 2026, we recommend that clients apply for the funeral allowance themselves, directly, without an intermediary—you’ll find an explanation in the Questions and Answers section at the end).
We’ll take care of the paperwork, the death certificate, and everything else.
You don’t have to go anywhere; we can handle everything remotely.
Or we’d be happy to come to you. And we’ll answer your questions honestly.
We’ll advise you on where to find additional support.
Some of us have personal experience with the loss of a baby; others are certified Bereavement Counselors.
What might saying goodbye to your baby be like?
ABOVE ALL, IT CAN BE VERY PERSONAL.
We offer ideas and options, but we might be completely wrong. The ceremony shouldn’t be based on our ideas. Everything should be connected to you and your baby: the venue, the obituary, the casket or urn, the music, the flowers, the colors, the candles, the photos, the video, the refreshments… Everything else is secondary, and in the end, it might all turn out differently.
HE SHOULD INVOLVE PEOPLE IN THE CEREMONY.
It’s like when we’re learning: we need to engage as many of our senses as possible—hearing, seeing, reading, writing… We can start by working together to prepare a few sentences, or even a longer speech. We can also reminisce quietly—by writing messages to our baby. Because there’s always something we couldn’t, didn’t have time to, or weren’t able to tell our baby… We can then burn the messages; no one will see them. Or we can write the messages on balloons or lanterns and release them into the air. Some people call this “heavenly mail.” Or we can write messages on little boats and set them adrift down the river… We can inscribe messages on a wooden urn or a coffin. We can sing together. Or plant a tree. If the baby doesn’t have a name yet, we can give it one together—“name it.”
MUSIC MAY BE PLAYED DURING THE FAREWELL CEREMONY.
Music has great power. It gives us the ability to evoke, intensify, dampen, or rekindle emotions—not only individually, but also collectively. Often, a song brings back just a fleeting glimpse, a whiff of a memory… Live music is always better, but recorded music is easier to play.
WHEN TO HOLD A FUNERAL.
In our opinion, there’s no need to rush. Wait until you’re ready to say goodbye.
We recommend first saying goodbye privately, with just your closest family and friends, to your baby’s body, and only later—once you’ve had a chance to catch your breath—organizing a larger farewell, either with your baby’s ashes or by laying them to rest in a grave.
This will also give you the opportunity to adjust the date to accommodate loved ones who might not be able to attend right away. However, we are here to listen to any wishes you may have, advise you on how to handle them, and figure out how to make them a reality. Perinatal loss is an experience unlike any other—one that cannot be learned from books. The same goes for the way each set of parents experiences it.
LET'S PRESERVE OUR MEMORIES OF OUR BABY SO WE CAN LOOK BACK ON THEM.
We save all memories, clippings, photos, and little trinkets. For example, in a box. You can use the memory boxes that volunteers from the organization Dítě v srdci make and distribute to selected hospitals. Or we can make you your very own wooden memory box. You’ll be able to return to this box often—at Christmas, on All Souls’ Day, on all anniversaries… and whenever you’re feeling sad.
IT MAY BE IN A PLACE THAT IS UPLIFTING.
If we can be outdoors, we most highly recommend places by the water (an island, a river confluence, a weir), spots in a park or at the edge of a forest, locations in a meadow, and scenic overlooks. Gardens at villas (as well as private gardens), garden gazebos, and even areas near a church or in a cemetery. We have a detailed map of good locations, but we don’t really use it much anyway: the most important thing is that the place feels personal to you.
If indoors, it could be a small chapel, a historic villa with a terrace and garden, a lounge (in a theater, gallery, restaurant, or hotel), a gallery or museum, a community center, a library, a loft or rooftop, a café…
IT CAN CREATE A MEMORIAL FOR A BABY.
We can plant a tree: it’s a living memorial—and a sustainable one at that. We watch the tree grow; it changes right before our eyes; we can touch it; it has its own scent; we have to care for it a little… And as we gradually grow attached to it, we also gradually come to terms with the loss. We can make a watering trough or a bird feeder. These can be incorporated into a tiny memorial garden that we’ll create together, which will bring everyone involved closer together. We can make a special piece of jewelry with the baby’s ashes, or a commemorative glass piece—something that certainly belongs here in the Czech Republic, a glassmaking powerhouse.
A BABY'S FUNERAL CAN ALSO BE COLORFUL.
People usually feel sad and cry at a funeral, but your baby’s funeral doesn’t have to be somber. It can be childlike—that is, colorful.
It’s meant to help us return to life, and colors are a part of that. At the beginning of the service, we try to help everyone focus, then gradually immerse themselves in our shared grief, and finally in their own personal grief. But as the service draws to a close, we’re glad when we can see a smile shining through the tears.
FUNERAL SERVICES WITH CREMATION
Our service covers everything from initial assistance, communication with all parties involved, transportation, the casket, and cremation, to handling the paperwork and, if applicable, processing the 5,000 Kč funeral allowance from the government.
The actual price is therefore only 9,500 CZK, because the government will pay 5,000 CZK.
Funeral service with burial
Our service includes everything except stonemason services: from initial assistance, through communication with all parties involved, transportation, and a ceremonial casket, to handling the paperwork and, if applicable, applying for the 5,000 Kč funeral subsidy from the government. The actual price is therefore only 11,500 Kč, because the government pays 5,000 Kč.
Farewell Ceremony
Ceremonies are very personalized: we can thoughtfully organize a small ceremony for 3,000 CZK as well as large ceremonies costing tens of thousands. The average price is around 10,000 CZK.
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS ABOUT BABY FUNERALS:
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Yes, you are allowed to bury a baby after a miscarriage or after birth, and the law provides for this. However, it is important that you notify the hospital as soon as possible—within 96 hours at the latest—that you will be burying the baby. If you do not do so in time, the baby will be cremated and placed in a communal grave (just as is done for adults who have no surviving relatives). However, if you wish to receive the ashes, it will be very complicated—perhaps even impossible.
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Whether your baby died before birth, during labor, or at any time after birth, you can have the baby buried. However, you have only 4 days—or, more precisely, 96 hours—from the time the death is reported to arrange the funeral. If you do not arrange the funeral within this time frame, the baby’s body will be cremated and placed in a communal grave. Retrieving the ashes is difficult and often impossible.
Please note that, unfortunately, the law on funerals does not take into account the fact that a baby may die before birth while still in the mother’s womb. The aforementioned 96 hours begin from the moment the baby’s death is reported to one of the parents. However, the birth may still be a long way off; the mother may be under anesthesia at that moment, and the father may be distraught. And contacting a funeral home is probably the last thing the parents would want to do before or during the birth of their stillborn baby. If you are a family member or friend of the parents, offer to help them arrange the funeral—they will likely appreciate it. -
Whether you decide to cremate your baby’s body or bury it, you must contact a funeral home within 96 hours of the death. We recommend that you don’t go with the first one you come across, but instead read reviews of the services you’re considering. Think carefully about whether you’d prefer cremation or burial. As parents, you can also discuss what kind of ceremony you’d like for your baby before contacting a funeral home. You can choose either a traditional Czech ceremony at a crematorium or church, or a more alternative ceremony in nature or at any location you love.
Then feel free to call a few funeral homes and find out if they have experience with burying babies. Trust your intuition and pay attention to how the funeral home staff treat you. Do they listen to your wishes? Do they try to accommodate you? Do they try to pressure you into anything? Are they empathetic? If you have any doubts and haven’t signed anything yet, you can, of course, back out of the current arrangement and turn to a funeral home that you’re satisfied with.
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The government will contribute 5,000 Kč toward your baby’s funeral. You’ll receive this payment even if you arrange a funeral for your baby following a miscarriage or a medical termination of pregnancy. You can apply for it at the Czech Labor Office, which will not examine your income or any debts you may have. If you arrange the funeral with us, Pohřební průvodci, we’ll apply for the funeral allowance on your behalf (if you wish).
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After a miscarriage or an induced abortion, you will not receive a birth certificate or death certificate for the baby. In the case of a stillborn baby, only a birth certificate will be issued; you can have a note added stating that the child was stillborn. You will receive both documents in your baby’s name if the baby died shortly after birth. They are issued by the civil registry office in the municipality where the baby was born, and the office has 30 days to process the request.
If you don’t feel comfortable handling these matters at the civil registry office, you can ask a family member or friend for help. The registry office may already have all the necessary documents from the maternity hospital, so they can send you the birth certificate by mail. Since we know from our own experience that not all registry office clerks are empathetic, you can also contact us, Pohřební průvodci, and we can handle these formalities for you. -
After a miscarriage or an induced abortion, you cannot apply for maternity leave or maternity benefits. Mothers of stillborn babies or babies who died shortly after birth are eligible for 14 weeks of maternity leave and may receive maternity benefits. We recommend that you consult with the Czech Social Security Administration and your employer regarding your specific situation.
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After a miscarriage or an induced abortion, the child’s father is not entitled to paternity leave. Fathers of stillborn babies or babies who die within six weeks of birth may apply for 14 days of paternity leave. For more information and eligibility requirements, please contact the Social Security Administration.
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After the birth of a stillborn baby or the death of a baby shortly after birth, the father or another household member may stay home for up to 9 days to care for the mother or other children under the age of 10. The gynecologist or another attending physician determines eligibility for caregiving benefits.
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After a miscarriage, an induced abortion, or the death of a baby, parents are not eligible for parental benefits or parental leave. If the baby died after birth and the mother was not eligible for maternity benefits, she may receive parental benefits for the period during which the baby was alive. If you need more information, please contact the Czech Labor Office directly; they will certainly be able to advise you.
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If, as a mother, you don’t feel physically or mentally well enough to return to work, consult your primary care physician, gynecologist, or even a psychiatrist about the possibility of staying home on sick leave.
And if you didn’t find the answer to your question here, you can also check out the website www.perinatalniztrata.cz, where all situations are described in more detail. You can also write to us or call us directly, and we’ll be happy to help you. -
Yes, if you have only a small amount of ashes left after your baby’s cremation, that’s correct. Today’s cremation furnaces are set to a temperature of around 1,000°C, and only 2–3 tablespoons of ashes remain from a baby. Currently, there’s no other way to do it in the Czech Republic—all crematoriums operate similarly. A solution would be a small electric furnace designed exclusively for babies, one that wouldn’t reach such high temperatures—we’re working on it, but it will take some time.
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After a baby’s cremation, very little ash remains, so the crematorium staff, often with the best of intentions to “provide ash,” scrape out what’s left over from other cremations… That’s why some mothers tell us that the ashes were heavier than the baby itself.
If we’re organizing the funeral, we can communicate with the crematorium and make arrangements with them to ensure this doesn’t happen, so that you receive only your baby’s ashes. -
Babies have very delicate skin. It decomposes more quickly than that of adults. This doesn’t deter the mother—and often not even the father—because they simply love their child unconditionally, but it may take others by surprise. That’s why we recommend saying goodbye to the baby’s body in person as soon as possible and then holding the funeral service using only the ashes from the cremation.
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Babies are usually sent for an autopsy. While you can refuse an autopsy, the doctors will try to convince you to have one—and they may be right to do so. Without an autopsy, you may never find out the causes of any health complications. Knowing these causes could be valuable in the event of a future pregnancy.
Doctors sometimes perform a type of autopsy that makes it virtually impossible to say goodbye to the baby’s body afterward. Therefore, if we know that you’ll want to say goodbye to the baby’s body, we immediately call the doctors in the pathology department to request that they perform an anatomical autopsy—and under no circumstances a biopsy. Don’t worry about anatomical autopsies: the baby will look just the same as before the procedure...
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According to the Health Services Act, a case is considered an abortion if the baby “shows no signs of life and, at the same time, has a birth weight of less than 500 g; or, if the birth weight cannot be determined, if the pregnancy is less than 22 weeks.” In all other cases, it is considered a stillbirth. However, you may, are permitted to, and have the right to bury either one.
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At our services, we often meet 30-year-olds who have never been to a funeral before—let alone seen the deceased. Perhaps that’s why this will be your first such experience.
If we may offer some advice, don’t be afraid to look at the baby, to touch it… Death bestows a special, almost sacred peace upon the body. We know that parents who haven’t said goodbye to their baby’s body often call the funeral home months, even years, after the baby’s death, looking for at least a photo. On the other hand, we don’t want to distress or traumatize anyone, so we recommend holding a funeral for a wider circle of mourners at a later date. -
So try calling or emailing us, and we'll see if we can at least take care of something for you…
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In Bohemia, it was customary to baptize children immediately after birth, at the slightest sign of life—sometimes even a feigned one—so that the child would go to heaven, but also so that the midwife would not be accused of mishandling the birth.
Today, parents who wish to have their child baptized refer to what is known as “baptism of desire.” However, this form of baptism is, at the very least, questionable—and more likely impossible—for stillborn children.
A stillborn child goes to heaven even without baptism.
Thomas Aquinas defined the concept of limbo: a place for the souls of people who committed no personal sins but from whom original sin had not been removed through baptism. Typically, this is a temporary state for the souls of good people who died before the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Likewise, according to this concept, children who died before they could be baptized were sent to a second limbo, known as “limbus infantium” or “limbus puerorum.” However, theologians had long criticized this as discriminatory, and so in 1984, Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger (later Pope Benedict XVI) proposed the hypothesis that limbus had never been part of Catholic theological doctrine, and in 2007, the Vatican effectively abolished the concept of limbus. Limbus was also never a dogma. Those who died unbaptized in early childhood will therefore automatically go to heaven. -
Starting in April 2026, we recommend that clients apply for the funeral allowance themselves, without an intermediary, for the following reasons:
Employees at the employment office repeatedly ask us—since we’re a “nonprofit”—whether “the woman is Roma” or, for example, why “she doesn’t have a Czech name.”
Employment office staff tend to be reluctant to approve applications from intermediaries; for example, a client writes to us: “…an employment office employee contacted me directly and explained that the approval was delayed because, from their perspective, it wasn’t clear whether the benefit would actually be paid to me in the end, since your account number was listed on the application. Apparently, there have been an increasing number of cases lately where intermediaries keep this benefit for themselves and enrich themselves unlawfully. That’s why they’re supposedly being more cautious.”
Employees at the employment office often do not communicate with us; they call clients directly (even if their phone number was not included in the application), and when we later inquire about the status of the application, they tell us, for example, that “everything has been resolved,” or that they called us (they called the client) and no one answered, so they rejected the application.
WHAT'S NEXT?
Grief and sorrow come in waves, and you certainly don’t have to face them alone. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
The healthcare facility where the birth took place may offer you psychotherapeutic support. Don’t hesitate to ask them directly.
The crisis intervention hotline at the Perinatal Hospice “Dítě v srdci” will be happy to advise you; you can call every day from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. at 731 031 064. For more information, visit www.ditevsrdci.cz.
Practical information is available at www.prazdnakolebka.cz. As part of their “You Are Not Alone” project, you can request to be connected with a lay counselor—a parent who has personal experience with the death of a baby.
The organization Cesta domů also provides counseling and support for bereaved families; you can schedule an appointment at their counseling center by phone or email. For more information, visit www.cestadomu.cz.